“I am going to take this bucket of water and pour it on the flames of hell, and then I am going to use this torch to burn down the gates of paradise so that people will not love God for want of heaven or fear of hell, but because He is God.”


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The title says it all. Seriously, since when did the world start concluding virtual social networking as actual social networking? It's ridiculous, it's unhealthy and it's starting to get pretty annoying.

Facebook is over rated. Since when did  having a social network account considered equal as having an identification number? It's like enabling access to an international database of personal affairs of people who actually happen to exist. It creates an identity, by default, our own identity, which in a positive way actually contributes to our social network. We can find long lost friends, we can communicate with our friends, and other stuff people do on facebook, that's why EVERYONE has it, from your grandfather to your 6 month old niece, every single human being who is within a range of 100 metre radius with a computer has a facebook account.

I have no problem with that, really, I've got better stuff to do than mock around other people's virtual business. If they want to make a big deal out of it, then let them be, I genuinely don't care, but when people start to make a big deal out of MY virtual business, I can't accept such meddling.

I don't take Facebook seriously, I just don't. Sometimes I don't open it at all. I can go weeks without checking my notifications, longest record 6 months. It's just not something significant in my life. Tumblr is more exhilarating, blogging is more fun, and backtracking indie movies can be way more worthwhile than updating my status every now and then. I mean, I do use Facebook occasionally, I'm just not addicted to it. It's not a big part of my life. In fact, I consider it to be just a small activity that I do once in a while, plus I've deactivated it a couple of times. The only reason why I still have that account is because of my newsfeed.

I don't have much friends on facebook, because I filter everyone. 150 is a fair amount, it's actually the same amount of people I've rejected their friends request. I don't see it as an evil attempt of being 'in your face' or any form of mockery. The thing is, people on facebook has this little rule book that I seem to have not known.

1. Friending on facebook, means you're friendly and not arrogant
2. Accepting someone's friend request means you have no problems with him/her
3. Rejecting someone's friend request means you hate him/her
4. Unfriending someone after accepting his/her friend request is pure evil.

I don't know how people come up with all this, why does it has to be so hard? If I don't want to be friends with you on facebook, it means that I don't want to be friends with you on facebook, why must you complicate such a simple phrase?It doesn't necessarily mean I don't want to be friends with you in real life, why are people making such a big fuss?

My newsfeed consists of Akah's witty statements, Fatihah's deep quotes, some sassy comments, some dirty jokes, some religious article links, some song lyrics, and occasional up to date affairs in life. So when this one dude, kept tweeting a lot of cheezy one liners that showed up on my newsfeed, it was just...annoying. I mean it's his rights to post whatever he wants, I just don't want it in my newsfeed, plus we barely even talk, real life or in facebook, so I thought if I unfriended him, he wouldn't notice, because that's always the case. When I unfriend people, they don't notice, because we don't even talk, which was the whole point of unfriending him/her in the first place.

So this dude, with the cheezy one liners is my classmate, and I didn't thought he'd be that cheezy and update his status that frequent, so the decision in unfriending him is rational to me, because everytime his jiwang status pops up, I unintentionally curse at the screen, I can't stand such cheeziness. I mean it's not even poetic, it's just ... pure cheezy, and it's not his fault, it's my problem for not being able to deal with that much jiwang, and I have no rights to tell him to stop doing the stuff he enjoys doing, so I resorted to unfriending. Plus it's not like I said "I HATE YOU" in his face, I just simply unfriended him quietly, but he quickly noticed and he's offended with it.

To be honest, I don't think I did anything wrong. It's my facebook account, I can friend whoever I want, and I disagree strongly the fact that people put moral judgement on the things associated to my virtual social network, as if it's some accurate metaphor on my actual social life. But since the guy was offended, I apologized, because I don't want to end up in anyone's bad book. I don't want anyone to hold a grudge against me, I want to live a calm and quiet life, but I can't do so when someone is offended by my actions. So, yeah, I apologised, and he said he accepted the apology, but all of a sudden he brings this thing up again and it kind of pisses me off because I thought we were already done with it.

To answer everyone's question. Yes. I do have the option of unsubscribing you, I just don't see the difference. It was like picking 2+2 or 3+1, either way the sum's going to be four. But if this whole unfriending business bothers you THAT much, then I'll just unsubscribe you, as long as you shut up about it once and for all.