Saturday, January 26, 2013
There's nothing more offensive than someone who has the efforts that are not up to par with the intelligence he/she claims to have. It's offensive cause that's defying knowledge. The thing about it is that you're never enough of it. You crave it, you seek it, but it doesn't come to you, unless you earn it. Some things are easy to understand, and some aren't, but that's the price of knowledge: efforts in understanding it. There must be efforts— different people different methods...but bottom line, there must be efforts. You can't just sit around and expect to be smart, you have to get out there and really learn, not just observe your surroundings. If you want to observe, let your perspective go beyond the horizon, don't stop at Legoland and Universal Studios and claim you've seen the world. That's not an open mind, that's a single track mind.
Somehow you're justifying to things that do not exist. Failing at something means failing at something, it doesn't mean the system is corrupt or your mind works differently than others. It simply means, either you're not good at it, or you're not trying hard enough.
It's like someone saying I'm not pretty outside, but I'm pretty in the inside. When the truth is, she's not pretty in both, but was too ignorant to face the fact that she wasn't, accepted the truth that she made up herself, and has no decency to even improve herself. Deluded by the thought that she was good enough, she kept bragging about it and it made her look like a total idiot.
Just because you're not good with books, doesn't mean you're good in the streets. You could be good in certain things, I don't doubt your abilities, but what you keep saying is that you're smart, with no explanations. It's like you're saying that the human brain works only two ways, books and street, and since you can't deal with books, you're concluding streets, which doesn't justify anything. The fact that you're putting yourself next to famous geniuses doesn't make things any better. Their smarts were never street, their only problem was the system, in which they broke, and made their own rules. And how do you level with them exactly?
And don't get me started with common sense.
The thing is, common sense is highly relative to the people you're with. How do you know something is a common sense? Because everyone agrees that these are the most idealistic decision of act in certain situations. Not necessarily people abide it, but people do agree that it makes sense.
But making sense is like an unsaid social contract. I mean, not everyone takes discrete mathematics and understand logical predicates and how to negate a proposition or prove a conclusion, (because some are too street, idk) so how do people make sense again? It's all based on their own mentality. If this happened, that should come afterwards. But what if the things that makes sense in one person's head, isn't exactly common sense, but that person blindly says that it is?
Is it common sense to pressure people to lose weight? Is weight not a sensitive issue to people, especially girls? Is it common sense to make your girlfriend drive a long journey, alone, in the middle of the night? to spend an all-nighter with her? All that during the night before her exam? Is it common sense to flirt with other girls when your girlfriend is so blindly in love with you? Is it common sense to talk lies about her, just to get another girl? Are those really common sense? Cause if it is, I don't want to live on this planet anymore.
Is it common sense to tell girls to lower their ego, just because men are known to have larger ones? What are you trying to imply here? That women are not worth having pride? That men are worth their pride so much, they can't lower it? It's like saying I'm born rich, you're born poor, so since you're used to poverty, can't you lose a couple of pennies and dimes to maintain my richness?
No, this is not a negative twist, this is an exact analogy to the statement you just said. It was just as absurd as my statement. And you're the ideal example of common sense?
I honestly find common sense a bit too pretentious and unnecessary. In my opinion, common sense shouldn't be sensed. It should be learnt, like every other aspect of the world, you need to learn, doesn't matter in the books, on the street, or by being inspired by people, you learn. You don't sense something that seems right and claim to have gain smarts, that's ridiculous.
I think striving to be good and sincere is a better way to lead life. It's all about intention, niat. Why are you doing what you're doing and is it worth the efforts?
Let's just say you're going out of a building, and in the same time, someone wants to come in, naturally you'll hold the door for that person. Right, it's common sense. But if that person doesn't thank you, how would you feel? You just had the common sense of holding the door, why can't people have the same common sense to show some gratitude? See, that's what happens if you do it for the sake of common sense, it's no longer sincere. You're not helping that person because you want to, you're helping that person because it's the sensible thing to do, and you're pissed because the sensible thing that's supposed to happen, didn't happen.
On the other hand, if you're helping because you wanted that person to get in the building at ease, then when that niat is achieved, then you're done. Did he get in the building? Yes. Did he thank you? Doesn't matter. The funny thing about niat, is that you have to be sincere to yourself even though you know it's not the right reasons to act. Sometimes the real niat is deluded by the niat that we want it to be, so it gets confusing, but it's actually quite easy to know your real niat. When the results of your action is out, and you're sad/mad/emotional about something, then that was the real reason you did it in the first place.
If you feel mad when a person doesn't thank you for your help, then that means you're not sincere in doing whatever you're doing. You were doing it, because you wanted attention, you wanted praises, you wanted people to acknowledge your efforts, and to me that is very pathetic.
I also disagree with people thanking or asking for forgiveness just because you're supposed to do it. If you're really grateful, say thank you. If you're really sorry, say sorry. Don't use it for convenience, it just loses the meaning, and it's abusing the language. Sorry wasn't invented for you to get out of inconvenient situations, like what a majority of the people misuse it for. No. It's to stomp, stab and kill our egos and show how much we want that forgiveness. It's blood and tears crumpled into this five letter word. It shouldn't even drip from your tongue unless you really really mean it.
a/n : This post was originally three times longer. Cut short because it was too draggy and tl;dr
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